Our Son was Gay
by Leon and Angela Yuan
You would never think that three simple words could cause so much pain within the family. It was May 17, 1993, after his fi rst year in University of Louisville School of Dentistry, our son Christopher told us, “I am gay.” Those three words changed our lives forever. But the timing could not have been worse for my wife Angela and me.
When I heard Christopher say he was gay, the pain I experienced was like I had received news of his death. My husband’s response was, “Let him be! There’s nothing we can do about it. Besides, isn’t it more important to be happy?” But my response was quite different.
Thinking I could bring Christopher to his senses, I threatened him with an ultimatum: Choose the family or choose the gay lifestyle. To my surprise he coldly said, “If you can’t accept me, I have no choice but to leave.” Without any hesitation, Christopher picked up his bags and left. I fell to the fl oor in shock and anguish as my whole world fell apart around me.